Some people live by the “my way or the highway” motto. For the sake of this argument, If you are one of those people I’ll pretend it is alright because that’s what you believe in. However, I’m about to rip your life apart… my apologies. If you’re not one of those people, I think you’ll appreciate this blog.
Have you ever gotten into an argument with somebody who will not rest until you believe in what they are saying? You obviously have your own beliefs if you are arguing with them, so you are not going to just randomly change your viewpoint because of something they said (unless they are the most convincing person in the world, in which case, props to them). So the argument goes around and around you feel like pulling out your hair, people around you are staring at your bicker-fest, and/or somebody gets arrested.
Whether it’s a good thing or not, I tend to avoid conflict as much as possible. First of all, I have a problem forming opinions because, bless my little heart, I can generally see the good in both sides of the argument. Secondly, I understand that everyone sees the world in a different way. Everyone. Although I may believe something is purple, you might think it’s blue. That is your personal opinion, and I accept that (even though it’s definitely purple). The same goes with more important issues, some people just don’t get where you are coming from, and they are definitely not going to shut up long enough to listen to what you have to say.
There are some people who don’t get it. They like to force their opinion on others because they believe they are right. The point is… it’s not about right and wrong. Have you ever been so passionate about something that you will say or do anything you can to try and get the other party to understand? Think about it. They feel the same way about their side of the debate, that’s why you are debating in the first place! Whether you like it or not, you can’t convince them you are right.
Now I am not opposed to a little friendly debate or discussion, in fact, I think it is healthy and a great source of learning and exercising that big noggin of yours. HOWEVER, if you are going to partake, understand that some people just see things differently. Their purple may be your blue.
Don’t knock on my door to sell me on why your religion is the “real” one. Don’t corner me with your clipboard to tell me which politician is the best fit for the job. And definitely don’t tell me about why I need to be a Democrat or Republican. The best way to win a debate is to be able to see inside the opposing mind, and actually understand why they think what they do, so give it a try. There is a huge difference between being persuasive and being pushy, ignorant, forceful, etc. If you want to be the latter, that’s your choice (I have to say that because I just wrote this blog), but try opening up to the world once in a while. You can be amazed by what you learn.
”Too often we… enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.” – John F. Kennedy
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